Guy & Girl

This topic will be abit sensitive.
But no worries, don't feel offended,
Just write it out base on the experience and the things happened around me.


I think there are few things guy will definately worry the GF will request them to do so:-
1) Stop smoking
2) Stop drinking
3) Cut down entertainment with friend
4) Drive slowly or carefully or don't 'greets' ppl's family when driving
5) Shopping with her
6) Pay for her shopping
7) Cutting football show with friends
8) Give her an 'safety' report no matter where you go
9) Stop playing online game such as RO online
10) Drive her around just like her driver

*I believe there are still quite alot i didn't mention, but just take the 10 as above as reference.

There are alot of things that girls will hope their BF can improve and not dislike their attitude:-
1) Get rid of smoking
2) If possible, cut down the 'connection' with liquor
3) Keep a distance with female close friends
4) Spend the weekend with her but not his friends only
5) Do not drive like a mad when he loss temper
6) Shopping with her just like her female buddy
7) Send her sms no matter where he go which without her
8) Give her some big warm hug all the times.
9) Support and help her during the diet period
10) Be honest and don't lie to her

*I believe for girls, there are definately much much more than those above 10 things. Cause there is a sentence claim that guy always more simple than girl. Is it correct? Is depends ...

Alot of guys and girls cant get along and they didn't think of why have to do all this.
Men from Mars, Women from Venus. I believe alot of you have heard of this sentence b4
Since men and women are come from different planet,
the only way to solve the misunderstand between both will be - communications

Alot of us has forgot the simple way to solve problem is to 'tell'
What is 'tell'?
Tell your feeling and your thinking.
To talk to each other to understand not to shout for arguement.


For girls,
Try to sit down now, drink a bit of cold drink, play some relax music or lounge bossa nova music.
Slowly close your eyes, and try to think.....
Why guy scare of their GF request them to change?
1) Stop smoking
- smoking is a bad habit, but if he really stressful and there is no other way. Don't be too strict,
let him have at least one or two sticks. Of course, only when the person is in good health
condition.

2) Stop drinking
- Sometimes drinking related to job. Maybe they wanted to avoid it, but thing just happen.
They force to drink and have to entertain client, it's apart of the job. As long as he not always
get drunk and mess up everything, then let him. Understand his feeling, he is tired too.

3) Cut down entertainment with friends
- No matter how, guys they still need friends for chat and share. Of course he will share his
things with you, but sometimes they need help from friends to surprise you as well. Let
them have a healthy contact with friends as long as he not doing something unfaithful to you.
Something he cant talk to you but he needs a male friends to talk with and understand him.

4) Drive slowly or carefully or don't 'greets' ppl's family when driving
- I think alot of the girls facing this issue. Guy is just so easy to loss their temper when driving.
Try to explain to him, this will relate to the future if you have plan for future. Just tell him
nicely, why you don't like he do so. Guy will listen if you tell him nicely instead of you says
they just stubborn like a cow.

5) Shopping with her
- Some guy just shy or not comfortable to wait you in female apperal shop. Try to find out
why he don't like shopping with you, or maybe just discuss with him nicely so you can go
shopping with your friends instead of go with him and cause him uncomfortable.

6) Pay for her shopping
- He work very hard to get a monthly fix salary or maybe sometimes with extra allowance.
You can ask him buy you present but not pay all your shopping. He still need the money to
support his living.

7) Cutting football shows with friends
- I think most of the guy like football so much, some of the girl as well. If you feel lonely when
he watch football match with friends at outside, try to be little bit hardworking. Discuss
with him and try to have a mini football match show in your house. If you lazy to clean up,
you can just forget bout the idea.

8) Give her an 'safety' report no matter where you go
- Some guy just used to the freedom of single life. Just explain to them why you ask them to
do so, and don't get mad of them. They might not used to it and will forget sometimes. It
possible their friend will laugh at them as well. Protect his pride and be patience.

9) Stop playing online game such as RO online
- There are alot guy and girl playing RO online. But there are alot couple separate because of
online games, chatting and others give them a chance to be unfaithful. But believe to fate, if
he really have another girl, there is no point to hold him. If he meant to be your man, no
matter what is happen in between, the ending will still be the happy ending.

10) Drive her around just like her driver
- Sometimes he have to do his job and he have his own schedule. Try to discuss with him
earlier and make arrangement. If he can't make it, don't get mad. Understand his situation,
make sure yourself reach the destination safely. Do not use your life to bet for an answer.


For Guys,
Try to sit down now, hold a glass of red wine, play some music or Kenny G kind of music.
Slowly close your eyes, and try to think.....
Why your GF hopes you can improve on certain thing?
1) Get rid of smoking
- It can really spoil your health and cause cancer. She loves you, that's why she wish you to
be healthy and live longer with her. She just don't want to miss any second with you.

2) If possible, cut down the 'connection' with liquor
- Girl actually is very simple. There is only 2 reason, she worry that you might drunk and flirt
with others. Another is same with the first one, she worry bout your health. Conclusion still,
She really love you, that's why she will care and feel sad.

3) Keep a distance with female close friends
- This issue is very personal issue. You have to understand her past. She might get hurts in
some kind of situation related with this issue. Try to comfort her and give her confident
with your action.

4) Spend the weekend with her but not his friends only
- Girls usually will change their lifestyle after they in a relationship. She miss you and she feel
like joining you and your friend. Give her a chance if there is not a guy talk section. You also
might experience the different thing as well.

5) Do not drive like a mad when he loss temper
- Is really very danger to drive around in this situation. You will makes her worry because
after you drop her, you will drive alone back home. If you love her, try to control your
temper and drive carefully. Not only for your GF, but your family as well. They love you!

6) Shopping with her just like her female buddy
- Actually i believe around 3% of the guy can make it. The rest if they succeed, they are gay!
Guy & Girl will never have a same taste. Encourage her to give you opinion but not force.
If he feel uncomfortable, discuss with him so next time you can shop with your female buddy
and avoid the arguement. Guy please understand that she like to ask you because she wear
it for you. If you don't bother the piece of cloth on her, she will feel that you boring of her.

7) Send her sms no matter where he go which without her
- There are alot of thing could be happen, just practice it and make it become a habit so the
people around you will not so worry bout you. Not only her, your family as well. You will
be a father one day, learn to be responsible earlier the better.

8) Give her some big warm hug all the times
- Girl can be sensitive and emotional. Especially girl have to go through period. Sometimes
maybe you think you have done everything to make her happy. But sometimes she don't
need any present, she just want a hug from you. No harm to give her at least a hug a day.

9) Support and help her during the diet period
- Due to our age is always add up and never cut down, metabolism will slow down as well. She
might always go out supper with you and due to metabolism slow down, she gain weight.
Girl is just like to keep their good image to show you. When they decide to diet, please
be supportive and try to help them in healthy diet way.

10) Be honest and don't lie to her
- Girl always prefer the guy will tell her everything and be honest. Even though he got another
girl, your GF / wife still prefer you tell her personally instead of she find out herself or from
others. It will hurts her, but this is the lesser hurt way for her. Be honest, you already did
something hurts her so don't lie to make it hurt deeper. Of course, you can have your own
little secret and i believe girl will have as well. As long as is not harmful to the relationship,
everything is fine.




OK! my rubbish time is over! Now is midnight 2.43am in Malaysia. A sleepless night...
Now you know how come i so free to write all those rubbish theory..
For those who has read and does not agree with what i wrote,
Please do not shoot me down or beat me ya!
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